What to do after a loved one dies

Losing a loved one is one of life’s most difficult experiences. The emotional weight can feel overwhelming, especially as you navigate all the tasks that soon follow. While every family’s situation is unique, the steps below offer a helpful starting point for Texas families faced with this challenging time.

First, notify the appropriate authorities. If your loved one passes away at home, contact emergency services or a hospice provider. Then reach out to a funeral home. Many Texans find comfort in honoring their loved one’s wishes if plans were made in advance. If no plans exist, lean on family members and pastoral care to decide on burial or cremation and funeral plans. Be sure to obtain a death certificate—this will be essential for many legal and administrative tasks. The funeral home should be able to assist with this.

Many times, I see families that are quick to come to my office without first taking the time to process their loss. Grief affects different people in different ways, but it can also show up when you least expect it. Gather close friends and family for support. If you’re the type that wants to get things done, then move at a manageable pace. If you’re the type that needs time to process, be sure to set aside that time.

In the days and weeks to come, make sure the deceased’s home and belongings are safe. Change the locks or notify neighbors. Locate important documents like the will, deeds, and financial records. Next, when you’re ready to proceed, you need to determine whether probate is required to take care of the deceased’s property.

Probate is the legal process of handling your loved one’s estate. This process can seem daunting, but many estates do not require full probate. Our office can guide you through the options, whether you need to settle debts, transfer property, or determine heirs. Handling the legal and administrative details can wait a month or two if needed. Don’t feel rushed. Texas law provides ample time (four years from the deceased’s death) to file necessary paperwork, so focus on what matters most—supporting each other and honoring your loved one.

The road ahead may feel overwhelming, but you’re not alone. Trusted advisors, family, and friends can help guide you through. If you’re unsure where to start, call our office at (940) 264-3041. We'd be honored to assist you during this difficult season.